From: Marie Dion Gevisser
Sent:
To: JBSTE@aol.com; jbstewartmd@aol.com
Cc: GHurst@hurst-hurst.com; Del Mar Little League; gsg@sellnext.com
Subject: FW: Poor role model...Baseball is more than a game.
John Ben,
Since we
have now spoken with John P. who confirms what JoNathan told us this past Thursday
when he came home from school that you really didn’t have any problem to
speak of with M H other than perhaps he was a “little rough around the
edges” but not enough for you to want to remove our now 12 year old boy
from under his “command and control” take another look at what I
wrote M H back on August 30th of last year who during this deafening
silent period saw fit to maintain contact with you,
“...I will not watch quietly as my son who you keep
calling John makes a detour to avoid your reprimand clearly intimidated by your
remark, ‘I have nothing to say to you!’ and maybe dreading
what was coming next JoNathan decided to continue wearing his baseball helmet
through your post game speech so as to protect his head from your
blows...”
Mr. P.
wanted to know whether I would pull out our JoNathan should you be one of the
assistant coaches and I said I would leave it up to the league to exercise good
judgment, perhaps though, you could help them make the right decision by
clarifying your position in writing why you are so wishy washy, our JoNathan
not as confused as u would prefer him to be, agree?
Marie Dion
Gevisser
-----Original
Message-----
From: MDG
Sent:
To: TS
Cc: JBSTE@aol.com;
Subject: RE: Poor role model...Baseball is more than a game.
Mr.
S.,
In
this age of The Internet and quick communication why such a delay in getting me
the basic information especially after getting Mr. P.’s reassuring email
back on August 31st, “have not forgotten about you”
and then dead silence?
From
what I gather M. H. and his son are not going to be part of the DMLL unless he
changes his mind. Therefore to address any future concern of mine I would
expect in the event he changes his mind and chooses to play-coach the season he
would choose a different team than my son’s team. I wouldn’t want
to have move Jonathan because of M H.
Thank
you,
Marie
Dion Gevisser
Ps – I would be
interested to know who the coaches are for the As.
-----Original Message-----
From: TS
Sent:
To: John P; MDG
Subject: RE: Poor role model - How come we were not informed.
Marie,
I am T. S, the major’s coordinator for DMLL. I
have been working your request to separate Jonathan from A’s due to your
concerns about M H. At present, M H has resigned his position as m
T S
From: John P
Sent:
To: MDG
Cc: T S
Subject: Re: Poor role model - How come we were not informed.
i just spoke with TS
and he will be following up with you today with a complete
expl
thanks, John P
dmll player agent
----- Original Message -----
From: MDG
To: John P
Cc: gsg@sellnext.com ; JBSTE@aol.com ; jbstewartmd@aol.com ; Ghurst
Sent:
Subject: RE: Poor role model - How come we were not informed.
We just found out there are tryouts this weekend. I
need to know the specifics.
How come we were not informed?
Marie Dion Gevisser
-----Original Message-----
From: John P
Sent:
To: MDG
Cc: T S
Subject: Re: Poor role model
thanks for your email
i have been working with troy sears, the dmll major league
coordinator to make sure your concerns were addressed
he has been in touch with all the parties and has been m
i will be meeting with TS this evening and will
ask him to update you on the status of jonathan for the spring
2005 season in a follow up email--
thanks, John P.
dmll player agent
----- Original Message -----
From: MDG
To: John P
Cc: gsg@sellnext.com
Sent:
Subject: RE: Poor role model
You have yet to respond to my email [see below]?
I want to know what team Jonathan is going to be playing on.
Marie Dion Gevisser
-----Original Message-----
From: John P
Sent:
To: MDG
Subject: Re: Poor role model
have not forgotten about you
am waiting for a call back from a former board member to
help me with this
----- Original Message -----
From: MDG
To: John P
Cc: John Ben Stewart - JBSTE@aol.com
; gsg@sellnext.com
Sent:
Subject: Poor role model
Attention:
John P, Player Agent –
Mr. P;
Below is the email I sent coach M H during the last baseball
season.
Wan recommended that I send a letter to the league regarding
this coach’s ongoing bad behavior.
Coach H continued to lose his temper not just with the
children but with the empires on and off the field of play.
Please do not come back to me with, “We have talked to
him about his behavior, blah blah” since my understanding is that this
has already been tried and failed.
Furthermore, seeing the coach being sexist calling the boys
by girls names despite the boys thinking it funny perhaps even initiating this
“play acting” it is in my view degrading to women and should have
been discouraged.
This is a conditioning that has been going on for far too
long to be treated with a simple slap on the wrist.
Both my children now age 12 and 15 (girl) have been in team
sports since age 5 and this is by far the worst coaching I have witnessed.
I won’t let my son be influenced by such a poor role
model and want Jonathan to be placed on a different team
Sincerely,
Marie Dion [Gevisser]
From: Marie Dion [Gevisser]
Sent:
To: M H – M
Cc: John Ben Stewart - Coach
Subject: My son Jonathan
Attention: Mr. Mark Holmes - M
Dear Mr. Holmes,
In my
view coaching is all about empowering the kids to think on their own two feet,
giving them enough knowledge to make the right decisions.
A successful team needs to be united and kept united all the
way through the weakest link. It should be the coaching staff’s job to
help build that solid base.
Dismissing the mistakes of the stronger members of the team
while pointing a finger at weaker members only serves to break that unity and
the team’s fighting spirit.
Additionally, we shouldn’t sit idly by as someone so
trusted puts down a youngster going through “growing pains”
learning the skills of life.
I will not watch quietly as my son who you keep calling John
makes a detour to avoid your reprimand clearly intimidated by your remark,
“I have nothing to say to you!” and maybe dreading what was
coming next JoNathan decided to continue wearing his baseball helmet through
your post game speech so as to protect his head from your blows.
Teamwork should be fun and empowering and although this is
recreational and neither you nor the assistant coaches are being paid for your
services, good judgment should be exercised in words and actions.
This is not the first time I notice overreaction on your
part or hear comments that I consider inappropriate for an eleven year old such
as “Coming in second place is like kissing your sister and you
don’t want to do that!”
Good communication skills are needed in order to get a
positive response when pointing out the negatives. Even more emotional maturity
required when dealing with a young audience.
Losing one’s temper only shows a lack of emotional
control that interferes with the task of coaching.
Kids are impressionable, credibility is key to winning the hearts,
minds and souls of our youth who are all our futures.
I will encourage JoNathan to see out the remainder of the
season but my goal is to find him another team to play on next year.
Good coaches like good teachers like good parents will
imprint you for life.
Marie Dion [Gevisser]